Thank you but it isn't just me. He's making an effort too, planning to go hiking with me tomorrow morning because it's someplace I've been wanting to go. And sitting down with me and going over our finances earlier today when I asked. I think those are good signs that he's trying too. Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm being pollyannaish. But it's encouraging to me and whether or not we stay together, fixing myself is for ME going forward into the future whether that future is with him or not. That is my affirmation for today.

ETA: and it's where I'm at right now.

ETAA: I've got 2 more sessions with t for sure that are non-negotiable on the home front, and I may add some more. I don't know yet. I'm feeling my way through this as I go.