First of all, you still might have 10, 20 or even more years still left. My own analyst is 3 years younger than you and couple of years ago we had some interaction based on what I understood that he is not considering himself being old yet. Of course, his body is ageing but his mind is sharp and vital. I hope to be that way too when I'm 70.

Secondly, I don't really know if, in your particular situation which sounds very complex and very difficult, whether there ought to be a better way and if there ought to be, what it should look like. Maybe there would be a suitable way for you but only you can find it out.

We all have one life and for some people it is fairly simple and for some people it is quite complex. For some people, it takes years or decades of good therapy to arrive at a point where they can really be themselves and lead the lives they want. As a saying goes, all roads lead to Rome - so it's quite likely that good therapy is not the only way. However, I don't think anyone else than the person himself is responsible for finding his own way of reaching there.

What I'm quite sure of though is that those other ways are no simpler nor shorter. It takes as long as it takes and for some people unfortunately the baggage is that complex and heavy that it takes their whole lifetime.