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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
I don't have any problem with any person saying that their T abandoned them. But I also think there's a cost to that. To that person. Looking at what you bring to the party, what you see as abandonment or not, has consequences for the future. I think self understanding is a good thing, and it has nothing to do with blame, unless all you care about is attaching blame to someone else.
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To me that is self-evident and I don't see the point of stating it, except to reinforce the victim blaming and gaslighting that is rampant in therapy culture, and to reinforce the idea that clients lack self-understanding and need someone to coach them or interpret their feelings.
Ethics codes specifically mention things like abandonment, sexual misconduct, psychological harm, exploitation for a reason. Clearly therapy is a breeding ground for such things. So if someone reports one of these horrors, the logical reaction is to say "yea of course".
In my experience and observation one of the insidious effects of therapy is to make people devalue their intuition and common sense, and to yield to the "psychological imperialism" of the psych industry. You were not abandoned, you just need more therapy to understand how you brought this on yourself, etc. I have experienced firsthand multiple therapists doing that routine. So so sickening.