Sorry to be the buzzkill, but I don't think your daughter is immature. Since you should not even have her address, I guess there is some deep family history behind all this.

You asked her for a favor, she couldn't give you what you wanted but tried to find alternatives. She then made an effort to help you anyway and you got mad at her because you were not happy with the solution. Getting mad at someone because 'I didn't ask for it' when in fact you asked for help, just wanted another solution, looks more like you were angry that you had to involve your siblings (that you don't like that much?) and blowing of your frustration onto the wrong person.

She helped you in a way you agreed, she then informed you, You read something into a text. She denied your implication, you didn't believe her. Her cutting the line temporary is a healthy boundary setting behavior for being treated unfairly. She's allowed to have a time out.