Thanks Perna - he's still here, but since he had calmed down and apologized to both me and to the baby, I said he could stay. I didn't need to be alone per se - I just needed the angry hostile man out of my house, and that person seems to have left so it's fine.

We talked for a while and I think it all comes down to the poor coping skills he has. He says that I can't understand that my solutions are not "simple" for someone who thinks and feels the way he does, and he's probably right. To me, it seems simple to forgo the sleep before class and make up for it after class. It seems simple to me that if he's fallen behind on his schoolwork or doesn't understand the project requirements, that he should make an appointment to talk with his professor to get additional guidance. Yes, it all seems simple to me, but obviously it doesn't to him. I've given up on finding "experts" to help him develop more mature coping skills - he is completely resistant to it and is very stuck in bad patterns. My only hope is that he manages to bulldoze his way however he can to finish his degree - I think that a structured work environment will be a little easier on him than an unstructured school environment. And hopefully he'll grow up a little between now and his first job as well. You can only blame the stupid teacher or the stupid boss or the stupid wife for so long before the pattern is obvious to everyone that the problem might not be with all of the "stupid" "other" people. I hope he gets it someday. But then again, some people NEVER get it, and I pray he's not going to be one of them.