I wonder if maybe it's not helpful for you right now to have him list the positives. Is it possible that's making you feel worse? Like if he was saying, "You're an intelligent, caring person," that might make you feel more like you should just be able to pull yourself out of it? I just think of when my ex-T would say things like I'm very competent and intelligent, and it would make me feel like I should be able to just make myself feel better and that she thought I was a failure because I couldn't. Not sure how much sense this is making. But I just wonder if it could help if you asked him to pull back on the "listing the positives" part. If it is in fact making you feel worse.