Now that I understand that difficulty making decisions is part of the co-dependency thing, I kinda feel better about how I keep ping ponging. Knowing why I do that and a bunch of other behaviors totally gives me new focus. I wish I had been able to acknowledge this about myself a long time ago. T did bring it up before I found it in my therapy notes from 3+ years ago (I keep them on my laptop). I just was NOT in a place where I could accept it then. But I got there, that's the important thing. I said "I'm Art, I'm co-dependent" probably 6 times at the meeting yesterday. It's really powerful restating it like that. I guess that's why you do it. I'm brand-new to 12 step programs. Be patient w me lol we'll see if I keep going or not. Right now I think I will. They weren't pushy at all with the religion thing instead referred to it as spiritual and stuff. That was a big plus.