Once again this is dumb but I need some advice on setting boundaries with my mother on my hair. Unlike her, I hate having it touched, cut or pulled back severely and contrary to her belief I do wash it. Not as frequently as she would like but every three days. She always comments on it (did you even wash your hair? You going to do something about it later? Ugh, did you even brush?) And it's gotten to the point I have to have my husband do a second look at my hair before we go see her. Yesterday the issue came to a head. It started last week when she chewed me out for having "dirty" hair in public and told me to go home. I even warned her beforehand I knew it was a bit oilier and before I saw her I brushed my hair like mad.My husband even told her it looked okay. It was that way because I had came home from work very late and did not have time to wash it. Wasn't good enough. She bought spray on shampoo for me claiming it would help. It didn't and I had decided to just prioritize a bit better next time. I understand she wants to help but it's not like I have bugs crawling in my hair or I am thoroughly incapable of making hair care decisions for myself. I just do the bare minimum, wash it on my terms with shampoo I've been swearing by for years, carry a spare hairbrush and at work it is kept back with a cloth headband d since those don't pull at my scalp. This works. Spray on shampoo and constant (even if it was constructive) critiscim does not. I know she wants to help but she is pushing it. Sorry if this is dumb or over something dumb but I don't have good boundaries and thought this might be a place to start.