It took me about ten sessions to muster up the courage to bring it up with my T. I referred to it in the past, saying that I “used to” do it when in school, but not that it was an active thing. One day, I just walked into my session, sat down and told him straight away, before I even said hello. He was surprised, but he just took it from there, guiding the conversation in such a way that made me feel safe and able to open up.

I suggest either brining it up straight away before you have time to overthink, or write it down on a piece of paper and hand it to your T at the beginning of a session. Another alternative is to email your T saying that you’d find it hard to bring up in session. Your T should be able to bring it up next time in a way that will make you feel safe.

I know it’s a hard thing to talk about, but in my case, it made me feel a lot better to talk to him about it.

Hugs to you!