Gee, I am really sorry you are feeling beat up. People have offered you advice. It is not what you want to hear but it is valuable. Is it possible to look at this advice as a way to be constructive. What I mean is that support is not always about agreeing with you. There are times when something more needs to be said. If that gives us a jolt it can be terribly hard for us to read but if that jolt spurs us to a broader understanding then support has in fact been given.