Yes, we all have our own lives... I’m not usually unhappy over our distant relationship because it has always been emotionally withheld. Honestly I usually feel a deep awkward void when trying to talk to him so we don’t do it often. I don’t think my brother or I could say with genuine confidence that there is love for our family. But instances like these dredge up old hurts where I felt rejected from the family, my brother favored over me, and when my brother himself rejected and ridiculed me, his word overpowering my mother’s and maybe even informing it. My recent estrangement from my mother makes the feelings slightly worse, as well as having recently moved very far away where I don’t know anyone.

Neither my brother nor I have kids or significant others (to my knowledge) so we remain a nuclear family to each other, together with our parents. I don’t mind when they go places individually, but it’s a shock to find on social media that all of them are overseas with relatives to whom my mother has portrayed me in a negative light and is in competition with.

Thanks for answering. I’m focusing on my own stuff at the moment.