LMo,

I am reading your post & looking at 32 years of that crap....I hate to say this, but soon, you will have 2 babies to be caring for.....it's sad that we women put up with their crap....& all they do is continually hand it out without caring one bit how they effect us....it's all about them.

My husband did the not talking to me thing....this time it was about the IRS & I found out with a certified letter from them....lucky it was forwarded to my house in KY.....11 months...he didn't tell me about it....& not only that, but he never even contacted the IRS about it.

Honestly, there comes a time where we just can't take it anymore & there is an end....there has to be an end to out putting up with it when our mental health is at stake.....he has pushed me to such a level of anger, I get into a complete rage at him.....he's lucky to still be alive, but that is because I now own my home 2200 miles away from him & now it's divorce time after the IRS issue truely told me how things will only get worse & never change for the better....don't waist your time wishing for it to get better....if you don't force the issue, nothing will happen, & even then chances aren't very good.

Hate to be so negative in the pregnant state you are in....it was 30 years ago when I was pregnant with me daughter & I knew what a jerk he was then....at least I forced him to take care of our daughter because I wouldn't....I had my career & he was the one that wanted a child so it was his complete responsibility to take care of her....that was my only way of getting even at that point in time. I remember not wanting to get married, but was talked into it because I was assured that they will grow up....he was only 23 & he will grow up. He is more of an irresponsible child then he was then & that was horrible.

Sorry I can't paint a better picture....with I could have painter a better picture for myself....but the future isn't good & a baby only gives you 2 to have to take care of if you continue the way you are going.

I also know that we don't keep doing something if we aren't getting something out of it....I know I was guilty of that too...which was why I tolerated it for so long.

I wish you the strength to take care of yourself & your baby.....but as for the husband?????(good luck at toleration),
Debbie