I just turned 55 last week & I wouldn't treat my daughter or baby (if she had one) like that ever, ever, ever. That is just stupid talk that comes from trying to sound off & sound like you are in charge.
The important thing is to not back down in her case....keep strong & follow through on your threats....it's if they are just idle threats, that your Mother will end up getting away with it.....stand up for what your are saying stick to your guns.....don't let her make you feel sorry for keeping her away from the baby if it comes to that......make sure she doesn't get near him as long as her behavior isn't worthy of being around him....it's a priviledge she has to earn, not a right as a grandma.....grandma's have no rights when they act the way she's acting.
If you can, I would cut off contact everytime she comes across that way....cut her out of your life & if she want's back in, she has to change her talk & behavior.
.It's important to be tough with people like her otherwise, they continue to get away with their actions....they may not change anyway, but it's guarenteed they won't change if there isn't a motivating factor.
Just my opinion based on 32 years of a jerk of a husband & pending divorce
Debbie
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