Hi Fuzzy,

I think it's difficult to know if 'misunderstandings are unavoidable' was the right thing to say to you at a particular time without more context. If they said it at a moment where you needed emotional support it might have been ill advised. But on the other hand, they might have been gently trying to encourage you to think about how to deal with day-to-day problems (like misunderstandings), so that you're more prepared for when the next one happens. And that's an act of care.

I'm sorry to hear about your therapist lashing out at you, and your bad experiences to the point you want to change countries.

If memory serves, you're in the UK. If it's any consolation, I lived in Canada for 25 years before I moved to the UK, and my UK therapist is 10,000x better than the three Canadian therapists I saw. There are good ones out there!

So please don't think you're doomed to get bad therapy because of where you are... you may just need to keep looking (easier said than done, I know).

Wishing you all the best.