Hmm, I have been sleeping with a pillow since forever myself and it's simply because it relaxes me while I sleep. It could very well be that's the case with this boyfriend and he just made up that excuse rather than explaining that it helps him relax and sleep. Some people are actually restless sleepers and it sounds like this boyfriend has that problem and honestly, my husband was such a wrestles sleeper that we ended up having to sleep in separate beds. You are putting all the weight of your relationship because of how this guy needs to sleep? Well, perhaps you need to understand how some people simply are NOT actually cuddlers when they sleep, I know I am NOT myself and as I mentioned I do sleep with a cuddle pillow which is not like cuddling another person that you can't "just" let go of our push away like you can a pillow. I need freedom when I sleep, that has nothing to do with love or caring for my SO.