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Originally Posted by NP_Complete
The only thing that comes to mind recently was on Saturday when we met, I admitted that sometimes I wish he was my friend and quickly added that I know he isn't. His response was that was totally normal and he can't be a friend. I wish I hadn't said this out loud to him even though it's the truth.
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Can I kick your therapist? He could have handled it much better.
I've the same feelings of sometimes wishing T is my friend. I know why that's impossible etc but it still is painful. My T and ex T have talked about how we can't be friends, but also how I do have qualities that'll enable me to form healthy friendships, how the longing points to what I want in life, how we can work in therapy to build my capacity for recognizing healthy and safe people and other stuff... (I have problems with interpersonal relationships, and am socially isolated)
They've both validated the pain that we can't be friends. Ex T ever said we perhaps could have been friends in a different setting but that's not to be of course.