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Originally Posted by Lemoncake
I would him exactly what you've posted here, and help him look for someone else, by actually going through listings and writing openin emails if he needs a hand hold.
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I'm scared to. Because I know it's already "too much". Like although I am focusing talk about him to my T centered on my issues, it's already too much of his privacy being compromised.
So I'm being chicken and relieved he's switched back to "na, maybe we shouldn't see the same therapist".
I have put in quite a lot of effort over the past couple of years to help him look for someone else. "Enlisted" my therapist for recommendations, my sibling's therapist too for recommendations.
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I'm in the camp where I'm now very selective about the people I give and spend time with. I'm not saying their a bad person but just that If i'd explained something upset me and felt they didn't take it seriously- I'd start to limit my exposure to them to protect myself. Small things can set me off when I''m down and it's kinda hard to crawl back to equilibrium.
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Good points.
I have this huge need to be liked and am bad at setting boundaries. Like you, small stuff can set me off then I struggle to return to balance. One comment by that friend about T (even if it's "I have an appointment next week") = kaboom!
I never act out on them but always wait till I'm calm again before giving a neutral reply or encouraging them to see T (they REALLY need therapy. T said so to them and they told me though I didn't ask)...but yeah... I get dysregulated for a long time.
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