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Old Jul 26, 2018, 05:29 AM
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Originally Posted by NP_Complete View Post
My therapist printed out this article and asked me to read it before we meet next.

Attachment to Your Therapist | Psychology Today

What is he trying to tell me with this? It feels like this is more of the "I can only do so much" talk that's he's been giving me over the last two weeks. I was mostly at peace with my feelings of neediness, but I'm starting to feel ashamed of them.
So I read this, and it seemed like he might be trying to normalize your feelings, and also defend himself a bit that he is doing the best he can? I wouldn't like getting this to read either, but I can easily imagine my T giving it to someone. If it helps, my T told me last session he was too busy to look at what I wanted to talk about in the session, so I should just tell him, and he would stick the email in his trash. He later said he was just teasing me bc it is so hard for me to get started , but it didn't feel that way too me. It hurt my feelings. There is a huge canyon between the T perspective and ours it seems like once in a while, between What they mean and what we take away? That article seemed to send the message he realizes it is difficult and messy for you, that it is normal and other therapy client/provider duos face the same challenge, that it isn't easy for him or you(?). That is my takeaway.
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