Thanks Sabrina - I appreciate your post. That's exactly what I mean - I would expect these "stupid people" accusations from a 10 year old, but not from a grown man.

I do think that I can "understand" my husband's anxiety, but that doesn't make it easier, right, or healthy to live with. Rather, I guess I can empathize with him and feel compassion for him. But I've got only 3 months to put ME first before the rest of my life is about someone else, and right now I just don't feel like having my needs be brushed aside because he is having a hard time coping.

Ah well. Bedtime. That will help

to everyone