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Originally Posted by QuietMind
Can I kick your therapist? He could have handled it much better.
I've the same feelings of sometimes wishing T is my friend. I know why that's impossible etc but it still is painful. My T and ex T have talked about how we can't be friends, but also how I do have qualities that'll enable me to form healthy friendships, how the longing points to what I want in life, how we can work in therapy to build my capacity for recognizing healthy and safe people and other stuff... (I have problems with interpersonal relationships, and am socially isolated)
They've both validated the pain that we can't be friends. Ex T ever said we perhaps could have been friends in a different setting but that's not to be of course.
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It was a weird moment. I had considered telling him this before and when I imagined saying it I would get really emotional about it, but when I said it, it just came out kind of flat. When he said it was normal, he didn't say it with any feeling either and I wish he had. I also wish he hadn't added in that he couldn't be my friend. I already know that and I had just said it. It hurt to hear him tell me that even though I know it's the truth. Sigh. Maybe we should talk about it some more and I should let the feelings surface, but that feels so so vulnerable.