I can relate. My parents like to comment and criticize me all the time. All the time. Funny thing is more I spend time with them more they criticize.

They also comment on my hair, not cleanliness of them as I wash it dailybut my hair style. I wore my hair short last few years, short bob, but lately I want to grow it out a bit. They comment on it all the time, subtle hints how I need to cut it. No idea why. Just because they feel like criticizing.

They also commented on my weight recently, I am not huge but I recently gained some and I’d like to lose 20lb but I am not asking them.

Then theycomment why I don’t go to XYZ destination for vacation. No idea why I need to be going there.

I am in my 50s and was on my own since high school, I never even was traditional college student. I always worked full time and only took classes at night both undergrad and grad school. I never ever lived with them past high school. I am professionally employed, raised a child and am married second time. I don’t drink don’t smoke don’t do anything questionable, I have my life together since young age.

Yet they always find things to critusize me about something

The only thing I can advice is to limit your visits. Don’t see mom every wet week and if she asks tell her that constant criticism tires you up. I doubt she will change. My parents never changed so I lost hope