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Old Jul 26, 2018, 05:16 PM
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NP, I think you T is worried about you, and he is offering something special to you- transparency. He is asking you so see yourself through more gentle eyes ad himself too. He knows you are genuinely suffering so much that he stayed present to you in the weekend. The lines below? He wants you to trust him.

" Furthermore the therapist’s defense is only an additional proof that he/she is trying to cover up bad intentions. So, helping patients understand the child in the room is really challenging, even for therapists skilled enough to see it themselves."

The biggest source of trouble in therapy is the therapist’s failure to recognize or correctly deal with the presence of the child. It is when the therapist reacts as if the patient were a difficult adult. This misinterpretation is the therapist’s responsibility because the patient doesn’t have a fair chance of recognizing what is happening and can only be expected to experience transference as simple reality



This is where I see StopDog's comment about therapists being kind og high on themselves: "Therapy is like water to a dry seed. The yearning comes alive in the context of a relationship with someone who seems to understand and be willing to help." Really, people? You better bring something more than understanding and caring , bc my SO is both of those. He is not trained in CPTSD though.

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete View Post
Wow. That comment from your T seems really insensitive. That would have hurt my feelings too.

In the article, this line bugged me.I know there are boundaries and I don't expect him to be there all the time, and there is a part of me that wants more, but I do know it's not possible. I don't know why he keeps telling me over and over. I get it. He also asked me to read a longer version by the same guy and I just kept crying while I read it last night. I was a bit emotional about it.

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