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Therapists need to be very careful to give clear signals about where the boundaries are, and what they can and cannot do.
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This is a no-win situation at the heart of therapy.
The patient does not want to
hear clear boundaries, particularly not where T wants to draw them. So she
doesn't hear them, and feels betrayed later.
Added to which, a lot of therapists are
not clear, even if the patient is willing to hear.
And yet therapists always act surprised when the boundaries are not understood! You'd think they would learn...
PS: If the patient really understood at the beginning how little the T was offering, they might give up there and then.