I wrote it in a note I handed to her at the start of one session. And in the note I spelled out what I didn't want in return - scolding, telling me it was bad, telling me it was dangerous.

Her response was to apologize for not bring the topic up because she had wondered if I had a history based on the pain I talked about. I tried to push off the apology but she was sincere. Now she brings it up when I get really depressed or anxious, just briefly in terms of 'any recent cutting?' We don't ever go into detail but what I had asked for in that note was a safe place to disclose it and that is what she is providing.