i have self harmed for almost a decade and have never brought it up with T for a few reasons, mainly because I'm scary but also because in recent years it hasn't been as serious as a problem. but it has gotten much worse lately and I know I need to tell her but I'm very scared. I think what I am going to do is tell her I have been self harming, but then say I am not sure if I want to talk about it further. I don't know how therapists generally react to knowing their clients SH but I think she should know, but I am not sure if I want to talk about it in detail. maybe that could be an approach.