Hi spongebobfangirl. Well, whenever I've asked a psychologist or therapist similar questions, the answer they've given me is always along the lines of 'yes, it's possible but it may take years of counseling and hard work' etc. Mind you, that's the answer they give me personally, after knowing a little bit about my past. So, if they don't know the right answer to these questions, then I don't either. But there is hope, and the ability to manage these things and to still get some joys out of life.