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Old Jul 29, 2018, 03:30 AM
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I find your therapist's comment more than a little odd. He should not be guessing at what was the physical impact of your being sexually assaulted. Some rape victims sustain injuries that have long-term physical consequences. Some rape victims don't. It sounds like he was inviting you to elaborate on your experience in a way that strikes me as very inappropriate. He might better have asked if you felt you had received proper and sufficient medical care and if you were continuing to access appropriate gynecological care from a provider with whom you had a good rapport. He should not have been speculating about your gynecological well-being. I'm not surprised you were upset by his remark. It makes me wonder if he should even be counseling a female survivor of rape. Listen to your gut. The guy sounds a little creepy to me. Maybe he had a momentary lapse of judgement. But it doesn't sound like he has any sense of how to counsel a rape victim. I'm no expert on the subject, but I'm sure there are guidelines that professionals follow and that he has no sense of what those are. I don't think any tactful, mature adult would have made that remark, let alone a licensed therapist.

Unless this guy gives some solid evidence, quite soon, that he has something to offer for your benefit, I would advise you to move on and get another counselor. Therapy that leaves you feeling the way you describe is not very therapeutic. Counselors working with survivors of childhood sexual abuse should have training specific to that very issue. That should include supervised clinical work with survivors of such abuse. I doubt he's had much of that.

You would be justified in not continuing with this therapist. I hope you can find the support you need and deserve from someone competent to provide it.