Hi ajisalone . I think it's basically a case of knowing your likes and dislikes, your views and principles on things, and for that you need to be very self honest. And then having the self acceptance, the will, to be able to stand by those views and opinions, principles - which represent the inner self of who you are, your self identity, and then you simply interact with others from that vantage point. Take into consideration what I've just said and I think you'll begin to see the real you emerging over time. It'll be okay, you'll see.