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Originally Posted by healingme4me
I guess I'm struggling to understand why acceptance is resignation to a sense of hopelessness? :\ maybe it depends on what is to be accepted?
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That’s true. I suppose it depends on how we define those words as well. I guess I tend to think of the word “acceptance” as an understanding of how things are (and will continue to be). Of course, that might not be the other way other people interpret those same words, so it’s probably just a misunderstanding on my part. Sorry about that.
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Originally Posted by Altec
What do you think is the area of your life that has reached an impasse and that you need to move on from? Is it your job, your relationship or your how you spend your time? Not doing something that is fulfilling or working a job just to get the paycheck and afraid of taking risks to find another more meaningful ways to spend your time? It's detailed like this because this I what I'm going through right now. So I can relate to you, but I have a specific reason to feel that way though.
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It’s not to do with work, or my free time. I started a new job a few months ago and, although it takes time to settle, I think it’s going fine. I keep myself busy outside of work and, while I might sometimes spread myself a bit thin, I do all of these things because I enjoy them (fun/exercise/socialising/learning new skills etc.) and I make sure I give myself a free evening (or whatever) if I’m feeling overwhelmed.
The “impasse” is in the relationship part of my life, although there’s no relationship to speak of at the moment. (It’s tough to put the issue into exact words, but I’ll give it a go) Leaving aside the whole thing of meeting someone you’re compatible with, I don’t feel capable of having a relationship now, and I’ve felt like this for over two years. Essentially I’m sick of feeling like this (because it’s not a good thing to feel) and I don’t know what to do about it. I know it’s fine to not want a relationship, but it’s not like I’m getting over a recent breakup, or taking the time to focus on my career/another aspect of my life; this has been a persistent feeling in my life. I’d quite like to meet someone and start a relationship, but I don’t think I’m capable of doing it. (For reference: I have had relationships/dated previously, but not usually for longer than a few months and none for longer than 18 months).
I don’t let my singledom rule my life. A lot of my friends are couples (or parts of couples) and I get along with them the same as my single friends (as long as they aren’t being overly cutesy, because that’s seriously annoying). I just feel like, not only is this part of my life not going anywhere, there’s some kind of emotional obstacle in place preventing things from ever going anywhere. I’ve done self examination to look at myself and try to improve aspects of my life (new job, hobbies I enjoy etc.), but I’m drawing a blank on what to do here. Obviously I’ll just carry on with my life, but, aside from carrying on waiting and just hoping I’ll suddenly feel emotionally capable of having a relationship one day, what can I do?
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I apologise for rambling. I find it difficult to write concisely and feel that choosing to write incoherently is better than not writing at all. Thank you for your time.
