I'll try to keep it short as possible. About a year my relationship was my then x boyfriend was very good. We loved each other so much. But after talking about our future, to kids to everything else. After I left things slowely started to change and he and I was drifiting apart. Till this day I didnt know what happened. After I ended the relationship back in 2003 in 2005 thats when everything really started to fall apart big time. I had went into depression and everytime I tried to talk about the issu'es it was always I dont want to talk about it or we kept hanging up phone even though the issue's had to be discussed. After that when he became violent i started to become furious at him lashing out on him. Getting to talk about stuff but everything it was done with anger mostly yelling, blameing, screaming, begging and as I recall it. It was never like this before. I mean we had big love for each other. He had showed a side of him that I never go to see before. He called me every name in the book there was and here I was stunned with him saying everything to me. And I just took it and became severly depressed over that. Even when I called to tell him to cut it out and let loose he wouldn't budge at all for him not knowing how it was effecting my life. After all the drama with this guy and no one beleiving anything i was saying everything just took my be surprise. I know he's a drinker. But how heavy I dont know. I was angry for a while but I learn to except that too. And a year ago when I met my ex bf we went and hung out for 30 minutes but we barely got any talking down. His conversations were all mixed up. I dont know if he understood what he said at all. He had the look that he was starting to get aggresive but he managed to keep himself calm after he dropped me off and during all this we end up having the biggest fight at the end. With yelling, blameing, screaming, to harsh sayings and cursing one out is this considered as abuse? What is the matter with him?