Sabby Said:


Has your mom always been like this? Is her behavior ramping up just recently? When was the last time she had a phsyical exam? I'm wondering if she has a physical ailment that may be contributing to her behavior. I could be way off base here, it's just a thought.

ALWAYS. For as long as I can remember. I remember being three and having her threaten to drink a bottle of javex because I wouldn't pick up my toys. She also beat me when I was a child whenever her temper would get away from her, and was always screaming about something or calling me names ect.

I don't know if i told you this or you saw me posting about it, but she did have a hole in the inner ear that led to the lining of the brain until she was 28, this caused her to get menengitis EIGHT times.. we are pretty sure she has some sort of neurological damage from this.

On top of all of this, she was sheltered by my grandparents her entire life. God bless them, they were good people, but they always told everyone to "just leave her alone" "don't provoke her" ect.. this led to her getting her way way too much I think and she didn't learn to cope with sitations that did not go her way.

She DEFINETLY needs to be seen by someone, but she swears up and down there is nothing wrong with her. Even though she threatens suicide or blows up or hits herself in the head.. she thinks that it is all because of everyone around her, and her theory is if people would just leave her alone then she wouldn't "have" to get upset in the first place.

And don't even TRY telling her that she DOESN't have to get mad to begin with. Then she says she can't help it. And then she goes on her rant about how its good to let anger out, and says that my aunt is on so much blood pressure medication because she doesn't blow up often enough.(my mother is on blood pressure meds too) So i tell her that blowing up like that is NOT good for her blood pressure, but she doesn't beileve me.

We have written FOUR letters to her GP now detailing what she is doing, the fact that she is suicidal, the fact that I had to call the police on her a couple weeks ago because she was trying to eat a whole bottle of clonazepam and hit herself with a crochet hook... he has done absolutely nothing. I think this is ABSOLUTELY WRONG!!! I mean, if you tell someones doctor that they are suicidal, wouldn't they have a legal recourse to take some action in the matter?

I just was talking to her on the phone - she opened the phone call by getting angry with me for not calling her yet today. I told her I didn't want to call before six because there is no minutes left on her cell phone, which I have been using. She said she didn't know that - I said yes you did, we had a whole discussion about it several times last week when she got mad at me for using the phone too much during the day. So then she said she "just didn't know" and got huffy. Then she says that she had to miss an appointment an hour away today with her ear specialist, and I said that was too bad, trying to be compassionate. She then began cursing about how she would just go with ringing in her ears and a foggy head, it didn't matter. At this point, i sighed, and asked her to call me back when she was in a better mood. I don't feel up to taking her cursing and I don't feel up to supporting someone who refuses to do anything for themselves to feel better.