What you experienced were abuse tactics that abusers do. Are your parents still alive? I eventually read my mother the Riot Act about everything she did to us. She’s a narcissist. Of course she denied everything. But eventually I wore her down into a graveled apology and a hug. She said she did the best she could. And that’s honestly the truth. She didn’t have me with the intent of being abusive. She was mentally ill to a degree and couldn’t help taking it out on me. Fortunately for me, she was a very good, loving mother in many ways and that is probably what did give me strength and healthier feelings. Perhaps your parents were purely bad and abusive.

I really do feel a sense of release and feel better having confronted her and demanding that apology though. Even though I had to practically beat it out of her, it really helped me.

So, I guess I am suggesting you open up a can of whoop azz on your parental units verbally, confrontationally for your own sense of well being.