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Originally Posted by Embers88
I was also wondering, if it's not too much trouble, if I may inquire further about the issue that leaves me most perplexed - this huge overreaction to what seemed a minor and manageable issue up until the day before, the job loss. I told him I didn't understand why it had destroyed him so much and he said he didn't know either.
This extreme reaction of hatred of life and wanting to run away to start a new life where nobody knows him (which appears to be the common pattern in his life) is perplexing. I did find a thread on Reddit where a few people with bipolar described doing the same thing regularly, or at least wanting to but being unable because of practical matters, but I didn't get much insight on the mental process that brings on this urge.
I was wondering if anyone here has experienced something similar, or if you might know of any resources where I might gather more information. Once again I apologise for the bother - it's a lot of new information and I'm feeling a little lost.
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Yes, I've experienced something quite similar. I was with a man for several years. His behavior was just as you described your boyfriend's behavior, right down to his extreme reaction to the loss of a good job. I was always trying to figure out "what was wrong" with the man. It seemed to me that maybe he had bipolar disorder, or that he had borderline personality disorder, or that he had some kind of psychotic disorder. Or all three. His moods were all over the place and he would act like he completely adored me and was deeply in love - then suddenly a switch would flip and he hated me and would avoid me.
Finally, one night everything went to hell. I was in serious danger from this man and, long story short, I left and never communicated with him again.
One day by very strange chance I ran into a relative of the man's. The relative informed me that my former guy had been in a psychiatric hospital for almost a year. Turned out that all the years we were together, the guy was an alcoholic an a drug abuser (meth and heroin). No wonder his moods were crazy and all over the place. No wonder he had bouts of paranoia. I had always considered myself quite savvy about sensing substance use, but I had completely missed on that one.
So. As someone else on this thread pointed out, while your boyfriend's behavior might sound like he has bipolar disorder there could be a zillion other reasons that explain the way he behaves. There is no possible way for anyone on an online forum to diagnose your bf. A diagnosis should not even be proposed. I'm very sorry you're in such a rotten situation. If I were you, as hard as it is, I'd stay far away from the guy. In the long run, you will benefit. I promise you that.