Well, I told T about the situation in our session this evening. I think he is sad and annoyed about the whole thing too. He asked what my thoughts are about how I'm going to manage things but I was too afraid to suggest seeing him every other week, or monthly. The part of me that is terrified of rejection shut me down. Hopefully I will be able to ask at some point... maybe I'll email.
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Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux
Is it an option to pick a particular thing to work on with temp T, like a phobia or something random, and not let the two sets of work overlap more than they need to? You really only have to turn up to the temp sessions and go through the motions. You could still continue to do the work of therapy with proper T and leave temp T out of it. I'm sure you'll find a way through it that makes it as painless as possible for you.
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Yeah, it's possible I guess. I'm thinking about it. But I'd be seeing the temp T for forty sessions in total... that's a lot, really (as long as I've been seeing current T, tonight was our fortieth session.) I can't imagine seeing someone for that long and deliberately kind of withholding the relationship and trying to just 'go through the motions'. That actually sounds really difficult, especially as I tend to be an open and honest and emotive person. They have to be humanistic too so it's not like I can go for CBT or something and see it as very separate.
I guess it's deciding whether that's a better option than just not seeing him for five months a year. It does seem like it right now.
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Originally Posted by maybeblue
I've been seeing two therapists for months now. I think it's stupid that they would care, but I know that some do. I've never had my family doctor complain because I want to see a podiatrist. I don't see what the difference is. I didn't mention it to either of them at first. Eventually I did, but not in an asking permission way. Just informing them.
I do live in the US though and I pay out of pocket, so I'm sure bureaucratic rules differ--I just don't see any clinical reason that it is a bad idea. In fact I find it helpful to have two points of view on things.
Anyway, I'm sorry about this. It sounds very stressful. I don't know anything about the situation. I can't recall hearing about a college here that required therapy. However, I do know that bureaucracies have certain rules that they want everyone to follow and the first answer about doing something different is usually "no." Often though there is some kind of appeals process that could result in a different answer. It might be worth asking and if your therapist is willing to help advocate for you it might help.
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Thanks for your reply!
My therapist has offered to write a sort of 'personal statement' to present to my lecturers, basically an argument for him being an experienced and ethical therapist, I think. I guess that's a sort of appeal. I will try it in September when I'm able to speak to them in person... no harm in trying.
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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail
I have nothing useful to add, but would like to add a 'Bloody hell!' (a la Ron Weasley)
So sorry to hear of this hurdle, Luc.
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That was useful.
