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Originally Posted by divine1966
I think she meant “fixer upper” in terms of not standing firmly on his two feet in his age. In the US line cooks make only a bit more than minimum wages and he is already 40. If i cohabitated or married someone who makes that little, I’d have to support him or totally give up my life style. I am not materialistic but I always think if I want to take someone on and support him/her, I’d do it for someone I already know or related to, not a stranger. That’s maybe what she is thinking. I might be wrong of course
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That's exactly my mindset, divine. I have a really good paying job, and men in my salary bracket, in my experience, have been complete jerks because they have so many options.
As I've gotten older, I've shortened "the list" No one could live up to that laundry list of expectations, but I fear the whole "you can do better" syndrome.
I keep second guessing myself on this one. He's caring and sweet. VERY funny and treats me with the utmost respect. Surprisingly, he's taken me to a couple of REALLY nice restaurants and was honest about the fact that he's getting a DEEP discount because he knows the chef, and we just... TALK.
I don't need the fancy stuff (I'm not materialistic either), but the codependent in me keeps worrying about what others think. That can't be healthy.