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Old Jul 31, 2018, 04:34 PM
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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme View Post
I have to soul search about that. What mainly happened is I felt completely guilty for accidental stumbling on it , and now I am worried it's somehow going to make him if not angry then just regretful it happened if he finds out, and say that's it- the boundary is violated, the curtain is pulled back, we're done.

You know, part of what's good about all of this--your therapist's judgement aside--is being aware of your instant guilt over something you didn't cause or seek. My therapist has pointed this out with me, something I did with two recent auto accidents near me (one fatality) that I was not involved with, but because I was there, felt that I had caused them both. If nothing else, it's worth exploring that knee jerk assumption of guilt with your therapist. Maybe that's a way into the conversation?
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