There are 2 types of people, those who need to vent their thoughts and emotions in order to heal or move forward, seek Ts or counseling, talking about their needs and issues with other people makes them feel better or safe or or........
Then there are people like me who wouldn't visit a T or counseling, as our healing and progress doesn't come from talking it out with another. The last thing I want is to share myself emotionally, sharing and talking is draining rather than helpful. Opening up at my own pace with someone who knows me is helpful, someone who knows my past, my history and mostly me. Helpful advice is advice given from a person who has a deeper understanding and experiences of who I am. A person who you have history with is more capable of matching your needs, moreso than a stranger who doesn't share any personal history or experiences with you.

I prefer to sort myself out emotionally by understanding my feelings and knowing what it is I need to heal. I might turn to others if I need advice or opinions after I have decided what is best for myself. Talking about my issues would feel weird and awkward mostly bc it makes more sense for me to ponder my thoughts rather than talk about them . I know I'm not alone as I know others who heal using the same methods.