My husband and I have been been together for 30 years- married for 25 years. He works full tim days and gets up at 4 am. When he gets home from work he naps and I cook supper. We schedule "us" time at least twice a week. We only break that if there is a family emergency. Usually we can do something on the weekend, but honestly if he hems and haws and I really want to get out I have family to spend time with. I'm not waiting around because life is short. This seems to work for us.