I´ve been with my current T for nine months now and at the moment we have a summer break, she´s on vacation.

She have boundaries already of course but as an example she has occasionally given me hugs at the end of rough sessions, perhaps three times during those months.


She also rather often extend the session by let´s say five or ten minutes. We have some corridors and a piece of stairs to walk through before we get to her office and both to and from her room she talks to me. I find it nice and it´s not that she suddenly talks about private stuff but perhaps like a colleague about the weather, she sometimes say something nice about my clothes and such.


In the therapy room she sometimes sits a bit closer to me and one time, when I sat crying, she offered to put her hand on mine.

Now I´m afraid she´ll suddenly think she has to tighten her boundaries and that she´ll become less friendly, fewer smiles, no comments on my clothes and so on.

I know some T:s uses boundary shifts as a way to bring certain feelings forward and to "make alterations" in the relationship dynamics.


What´s your thoughts and experiences on this?