Thanks. Yes, my fear lies in what you describe, that some T:s actively use boundary changes as a method. I donīt have very good experiences from relations in general even if I couldnīt perhaps mention them as traumas. But as you say I'm vigilant towards minor changes and interprets them into something larger than is perhaps.
My T hasnīt shown she changes bonundaries, like her acting in one way one session and in another way the next. But I canīt be sure and I donīt want to show her I mistrust her on this or that I want to "poke into" her methods as thatīs not what Iīm after.
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Originally Posted by weaverbeaver
Some ts use new boundaries as a way to evoke ruptures with a view to repairing them. If like me you have suffered relational trauma you will be hyper vigilant for any clues of boundary changes.
In my experience these brought on ruptures never end well or get to the repair stage!
Is your ts boundary change a fear or based on your reality?
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