Thanks. Yes, in a way I want to but itīs close to like "tell the T how to act" and I donīt want to risk that. If I like tell her she canīt change how she acts towards me, then she perhaps feel that there canīt be progress if I want her to be "the same" always.
Itīs also a bit tricky to specify what is meant by a boundary change - is it that she must always hug me from time to time, that she canīt take that away or what would be considered a boundary change.
I realise some changes might be neccessary to question how I act in a situation, that she canīt always be supportive and agree to what I tell her. But itīs very difficult as it to me rather fast spirals down to a T I no longer want to share things with.
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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty
Maybe it is something you can bring up with your T. Like say something like, "I'm afraid this is going to happen" and just start off the conversation. I've had some good conversations with my old T that way and it helps me know what she is thinking because I would almost always get it wrong. Maybe that would be a help to you.
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