Hi All,

I left my husband close to a year ago, but am still trying to make sense of exactly what the dynamic of our relationship was.

We had been together for 10 years, things becoming quite toxic for the last couple of years. There were definitely times when he would be verbally and emotionally abusive, but I don’t know that our relationship fit the criteria of an “abusive relationship” in the traditional sense. He was became an alcoholic, so the last year together was quite bad and these abusive moments increased.

I had been seeing a marriage counsellor for around the last 3 years of our marriage, largely by myself - ex refused to go.

I guess my question is, would my therapist tell me if she thought I was in an abusive relationship? Or would she more likely steer me towards working this out for myself? I sometimes find myself thinking that what I experienced wasn’t so bad, as she never actually referred to it as an abusive relationship

Thanks in advance,
M