Anyone out there have a SO that has actually said they prefer the hypomania you? I prefer my SO when hypo as long as it's a good one. He prefers me as hypo too. That doesn't mean we don't like each other stable and we don't encourage each other to get and stay stable. There's something really sexy about a carefree, confident, outgoing person. We met when we both were manic. I think most BP's meet their SO's when they're (hypo)manic. An SO feeling that's your normal is understandable. I'm a firm believer that all of our "states" are truly us but it doesn't mean to not get help when you need it. In general we "ride it out" with medications. Our clinic is not much help unless you are at an appointment.