I have an elderly woman neighbor. I have been friendly to her. Something is a little cognitively off about her. But I am friendly because she deserves it. She gives me stuff sometimes that I don't ask for. I feel a bit weird about it. But I will tell you how it started: about a week and a half ago, it was raining. She was dragging a box of trash to the dumpster and looked like she was struggling. I said hello to her and told her I'd do it. We started talking and she said that she hates living there (she moved in over the winter / spring). She is very lonely. I felt for her. That sucks. I offered to take her grocery shopping sometimes if I am free. She said she likes to go to the thrift store. So I ended up taking her last Friday. She wanted to take me to get fast food afterwards. It was sort of nice.

This is about me now. I am not really sure I want to do that much. It would have to be completely on my terms, like whether I was up for it. And I feel like a jerk about that. Does that make me a jerk? I really hope not. I feel for her but I have to do me I guess. My mom said that it is not my problem if she gets upset about something like that. And that she is not my responsibility. This morning when I left to go to yoga class, I saw she'd put a crocheted thing she made on my doorknob...I went to yoga, and when I cam home, she was sitting on her porch (it faces the parking lot and I have to walk by her). She asked me if she could see me today. I said I was busy and sorry. I said thank you for the crocheted thing, and asked her if she was ok. She said yes. She said she wanted me to drive her to the thrift store today and I said I was sorry and that I was busy. I feel for her. I know I started this by taking her. It felt right at the time, but I don't want to and I haven't been feeling that great lately.

She did tell me she is lonely. I have thought about looking up senior activities for her. She doesn't drive. Maybe a bus could come and get her. I have seen those.

Also I just feel the need to say that the way she cleans her glasses...she lifts her shirt up to do it and you can see her chest. It's beyond inappropriate and I have no idea how to tell her. She did it at the yard sale we went to after the fast food last friday. She was not wearing a bra.

I would like kind responses. That doesn't mean don't tell me the truth. Thank you.