One other thing I've learned: Never ever ever blame yourself for someone else's poor behavior towards you. That is very common for the victims of abuse: to blame themselves. You are not responsible, he is FULLY. You deserved to be treated with respect, and when respect goes out the window like it did with him, it's all on him..... you didn't do anything to deserve it, nor does anyone. Just because you didn't speak up soon enough does NOT give him license to treat you poorly. You didn't deserve any of it.