100%!!!!! You got it. A MATURE ADULT apologizes, owns up to their mistakes or poor behaviors, and will make amends, but NEVER the abuser. The abusive personality can never take responsibility for their poor treatment towards you. They will always gaslight and project their issues onto you, blaming YOU, the victim. That is the common trait among all abusers. As soon as you see someone doing this, RUN and RUN FAST!!!!!!! LOL. I am so glad you see all this so clearly and got yourself out before you were became too severely damaged. I hope you are alright. ((((Hugs))))