Thanks. I can relate to what you say as Iīve also had a T who perhaps didnīt had very strict boundaries but she wasnīt a varm or caring person and I never felt I reached her.
With this current T I always feel warmth and caring but as we havenīt seen each other that long, for about nine months, I feel I canīt be sure if thatīs part of creating an alliance or if she is like that all the way through so to speak.
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Originally Posted by Soccer mom
My T. is not a typical T. with major boundaries. We have a close relationship so I might not be the best one to answer this. As we have gotten to know each other, we have had shifts in boundaries to show me she cares. My ex T. was very strict with boundaries which made everything worse. She believed loosening her boundaries would make things worse. My new T's looser boundaries made everything better and me more relaxed. I could never go back to a T. with strict boundaries due to my childhood trauma.
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