Thank you weaverbeaver, that's very helpful. He does act kindly, but it's hard to come across as kind when you are questioning somebody's motives.
I did tell him, and I fully accept that the father's day message may have unconsciously been, in part, a test to see if he would still step out of the role of my therapist if I inched on the boundaries. If it was a test, he obviously walked right into it.
I think you're right about the dreams. When I told my T about the teacher dream he said that he thinks that is a part of me talking, but I couldn't access any conscious part of myself who didn't trust him. I guess it must be in there somewhere?
Thanks again