a death is always hard ... lots of memories ... thoughts of reqrets ... these things take time ... let yourself grieve ... I told my dad there was no reason to hold on for us kids ... he seemed to relax ... and passed within an hour ... the pain the no chance of recovery ... it seemed the kindest words I could offer ... each of us will come to that time ... and I know no one who would want to cause suffering after they have passed ... remember the good times ... let the rest just fade away ... peace to you ... Tigger .