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Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue
I feel for you. Seems like you're trying to rush ahead too much, though. You've only just said that you like him. And he responded favourably. That's good.
Honestly, I understand that you feel like you've been waiting so long for this, and he's the perfect fit, and why wait?
But that attitude might be detrimental to your relationship.
Relax a little, if you can. Play it cool, in a way. By which I mean the ideal attitude when going into a relationship is to enjoy every day, make the most of every experience and put no pressure on each other.
A Skype daily interaction is the way to go!
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Eh, "favorably" might be a bit of a stretch. "Neutral" feels more accurate. It's not a "no", but also not a "yes", and it's up to me completely to pursue the topic, he would be entirely content not talking about it, but he tolerates it because he's great like that.
Yes, I don't want to push it and make him feel badly or like he needs to withdraw. I've already made him feel badly once to where he actually said so. I do need to be careful, but I have such a hard time with the anxiety of not getting answers.
I am trying to relax and just go back to enjoying his friendship. He's such a good friend and I love what we have. I need to focus on that instead of letting my mind wander to wanting to touch him for real. It's so very hard to control right now, but I'm hoping with more time it will get easier.
Aye, I will bring up video chats again at a later date. It would be a good challenge for me regardless of if it helps him like me more or not, and I think it could further improve our friendship at least. I trust him and think he would be perfect to try it with, like he's not gonna hold it against me if I'm a bit more withdrawn or something. Daily would be too much for us both I'm sure, but I'm hoping I could convince him to try weekly or every other week (our schedules clash a lot with timezones and me working, him working currently and will be back to school in September).